“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
– Alexander Graham Bell
We experience many life transitions throughout our lives. Some are small while others are more significant. Transitions can lead to growth but often the unknown causes anxiety. We are unsure of what is next. Often a transition leads to a disruption of our self-confidence. We prefer routine and stability. Or sometimes the transition is too painful or is overwhelming.
Then we get stuck. Unable to move forward. Unable to see the good that is next because we are stuck in what was. The Alexander Graham Bell quote above is so often true. When a change comes about, when a door closes, we tend to focus on what was, what we lost, what changes we have to make. But when a door closes, another always opens.
William Bridges in his book Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change, he talks about the process of transition as having 3 phases.
1. An ending (letting go of a situation)
2. A neutral zone (the confusing or distressing area of in-betweenness)
3. A new beginning (launching in to a new situation)
I look at my work with those in life transitions as how Bridges explains. I help you to identify what you had and that which you are letting go. I help you to celebrate what was, what you learned. Then we will work on decreasing the confusion of the unknown. This is often the most difficult and longest time. The more work you do in this area the closer to the new beginning you will get. The closer to feeling calm you will get.
I can help you navigate through your life transition to becoming a newer, secure you.
Together. For Change.